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Post by Patriot on Dec 31, 2010 9:02:28 GMT -5
All our thoughts and prayers are with Mike, Taylor and Taz. Heaven truly has a wonderful Angel - Brandy. We will miss her greatly. We love you Brandy!
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Post by electricbluegt on Dec 31, 2010 9:23:01 GMT -5
My heart sank when I saw Shane's picture of Brandy and comment on Facebook. I never met Brandy, but I felt like I knew her through all of you here. Mike, and Family, when you read this, know that the Kirby family in Raleigh are lifting you up in prayer. Also, you know the whole crew is here for you if you need anything.
Brian
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Post by shane21671 on Dec 31, 2010 10:23:05 GMT -5
Since you didn't know her personally..she was stubborn as a mule, and loving and giving to a fault. She would tell you "I'm a bitch, and proud of it"..but in reality she was very kind. She would do anything for anyone, and kick your ass if you hurt someone she loved! LOL She was quite a pistol, a very unique person. She never met a stranger...a hugger, not a hand shaker. She lived an exciting and crazy life when she was younger, and devoted her adult years to taking care of her family. I think she would say she lived a very fulfilled life. I don't believe she would "put up with" everyone remaining sad at her loss..instead she would "insist" you celebrate her life. She was one of a kind, and will definitely leave a void that can not be filled by anyone else. She will not be forgotten.
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Post by pdunagin on Dec 31, 2010 10:25:20 GMT -5
Mike and Taylor, my heart goes out to you both. May God comfort you with fond memories of Brandy. She was such a sweetheart! She will be missed by all of her PT family! Hugs,
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Post by Patriot on Dec 31, 2010 11:17:54 GMT -5
Those are great words Shane. A true description of the wonderful person Brandy will always be in our hearts forever!!!
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Post by DizzyDevil on Dec 31, 2010 12:29:55 GMT -5
A true Friend...who I will miss deeply. I hope that all of you will join me at Cruising for a Cure V in April..... The Peoples Choice Trophy is going to be dedicated to Brandy. Brandy always donated whatever she could to this show, was at all them, promoted it for me and helped me in whatever way she could. Cancer took my friend before she could attend a Relay for Life event with me as Survivors together, in her memory I will be donating $100 to my Relay Team, anyone else who would like to donate as well here's the link, Cruising for a Cure V |
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Post by FlowRW on Dec 31, 2010 15:45:26 GMT -5
Once the arrangements are known, I'll send some flowers from the club.
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Post by robinh on Dec 31, 2010 18:33:15 GMT -5
She will be missed by all. Such a devoted, friendly and kind person. May she rest in peace.
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Post by clenser on Dec 31, 2010 20:43:47 GMT -5
Very Sorry to hear about Brandy, I really liked her, This is Carl with double Vision Photography, I've only met her two or three times at the Myrtle Beach Show but looked forward to seeing her each year. I am very glad I got the chance to meet her and will never forget her, I dont know if there would be time to get it to you before the services but , Mike let me know if you need anything printed up or if you want to just make something with her on it, It would be an honor to be able to make her one last thing.
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Post by xwing777 on Dec 31, 2010 21:22:11 GMT -5
Sorry to hear about this, was hoping things improved. She will be missed by many.
Shane, the short time i have known her, you described her perfectly the way she was.
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Post by ROCKYMAN24 on Dec 31, 2010 22:02:24 GMT -5
will all miss her as she had a way to touch everyone she came in touch with.Shes with God an is looking back down at us all and knowing we miss her.Mike Taylor and Taz we know this is a very trying time with so many things to do,know that you have a support system out here that will help with anything you need.We all Loved her and will truely miss her she wasn't just a friend she was Family
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Post by ncptcruiser on Dec 31, 2010 23:09:00 GMT -5
Mike,Taylor, Taz...my thoughts and prayers are with you guys...she will be missed!  |
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Post by tomcruz on Jan 1, 2011 16:09:44 GMT -5
Brandy will surely be missed by many people. She was a great person to be around.
God bless to the family.
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Post by robinh on Jan 2, 2011 17:48:04 GMT -5
While I'm desperately sad at the moment, more for her immediate family than for my loss of a friend, at the same time I can not think of Brandy without smiling. I remember her telling me off a couple of times in her usual fashion, straight and to the point! And smiling the whole time! She cracked jokes with me a couple of times when we bumpbed into each other at meets. I should thank Diz as the first time I met Brandy was my very first meet with this club, and that was Cruisin for a Cure in Lincolnton several years ago. Brandy and family parked right in front of my car and I didn't know really what people did at these shows, so she took me under her wing and explained it to me, again in her usual fashion, which made me laugh for days afterwards.
I loved her as a friend, even though we were not all that close, but she had a positive influence on my life, and for that I will forever be thankful. She made me laugh when I was feeling blue, and made me laugh even harder when life was down and I was feeling sorry for myself. She was tough as nails on the outside, but full of love and tenderness on the inside. She will be remembered forever.
Brandy, thank you so much for all the smiles! You were an angel on earth, and now that you are in heaven, I can smile up to you whenever I need and know that you're looking down at me, probably telling me to stop being such a baby and get over whatever it is that's bothering me, and again, that makes me smile. For all the smiles and all the laughter you caused, I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
She'll be missed in person, but I can't help but be happy for her as she's now in her rightful place, amongst the angels in heaven....
My love goes out to her family, my heart goes out to Mike... keep on smiling, you know that's what she'd want!
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Post by kruzinl8 on Jan 3, 2011 1:04:55 GMT -5
Good evening my friends and pt family,
First let me say thank you for all of the kind words and all of the thoughts and prayers for my family and I during this sad time. It really means a lot to us to have such a wonderful extended family as this. We are truly blessed with His mercies to have you give us the support that is so needed during these times. Thank you so much.
Next let me say thank you to everyone that came out to the visitation and service. It meant so much to us and we were surprised that so many did choose to come. I know she is smiling down on all of us and she is happy and I think she now knows that she IS loved more than she ever knew. The love that was in that sanctuary was a true testament to the love that she has shown to her friends and family all along. Thank you all for being there.
Brandy was truly one of a kind. She was generous to a fault and loving without question. I remember when we were in the I.C.U. at CMC after the brain surgery, she sometimes got confused about where she was and when a nurse would come in she would ask them if they needed something to drink or eat. Sometimes she would tell me to fix them something and to make sure there was plenty of ice in the ice maker. That was just Brandy being Brandy. She had that need to make sure everyone else was comfortable and didn't want for anything. Now do you see why when we were at car shows the ice chest that we brought had enough drinks and snacks for everyone? I would tell her that we really didn't need to take all of that to the car show and she would say "Well...somebody might not have enough or somebody might be there that didn't have anything."
Brandy being Brandy.
When she made the afghans for people they were truly made with love. She would sit there and work on them and when they started getting large she knew exactly how many stitches she had per side and would tell me. I couldn't believe it was in the thousands of stitches. When she baked the cakes, they always had to be perfect. Usually if the cake split or broke when it came out of the pan, she would turn around and make another one. If the truth be know the one that was not "perfect" would have been just fine. Again....Brandy being Brandy.
Brandy had a good side and a bad side. I should know....I've been on both of them. Trust me when I say...you didn't want to be on her bad side! If she felt like you had wronged her or hurt someone in her family she would be on you like a momma grizzly! She wasn't afraid of anyone. Male or female, made no difference. If she was after you, it was like being chewed up by a chain saw. There were a few times that I just knew she was gonna get my ass kicked because she went after somebody.
We were total opposites and I think that is why we worked. I'll admit that most of the time she was in charge of most everything. But that was just her nature. To take care of it. Whatever it was. For the last two months it has been my turn to take care of it and I did. My family did too. We made sure that she had what she needed and there would be NO VOTE! We stood by her until the end. We were all exhausted but we kept going. We learned that from her.
Some of you may or may not know that she only had 4 more radiation/chemo treatments left when she had the seizure. She was always going into the radiation treatments with a smile for everyone and words of encouragement for the other patients. She had such a good attitude about the whole thing and was ready to get them finished. She even made one of her Lemonade pies for the staff. Brandy being Brandy
I realized that Tuesday night, in the I.C.U. at Cleveland Regional Medical Center when she was having so much trouble breathing and nothing seemed to be helping, it was time to help her. I began to cry and I leaned over her and put my head to hers and asked her to please help me. Please make this decision for me because it was one that I didn't want to make. I told the boys that we had come to a crossroads and we needed to pick a path to go down. I told them that I knew in my heart that if she could open her mouth and talk to us she would say "Enough is enough! Stop this crap and just LET ME GO! I do not want to live like this!" We all agreed that we had to stop this. She must have had 8 IV bags hanging and flowing into her veins and her breathing was very labored and quite shallow. We decided to just back off, put her on a morphine drip and let it play out. I leaned over her, kissed her softly, told her that I loved her and I was sorry that I had put her thru this. I told her that she wasn't going to get better and that we were going to make her comfortable and not let her be in pain. I told her that it was ok. That I wouldn't be mad. That if she wanted to, she could go whenever she was ready. It was ok. That was the hardest thing I ever had to do in my life. But it was love. It was all from the love that we had for her.
After the morphine drip was going and they removed the rest of the IV bags she began to be just so calm and content. It was like she knew it was the right thing and was showing us that. Before this, she had what I call the 'death rattle' in her lungs. The same sound that my father had before he died. Now her breathing was not very labored and she no longer had the rattle. I figured that she probably wasn't long for this world so I put her hand in mine, kissed it. Kissed her on the forehead and told her again that it was ok to go when she was ready. I told her that I would not leave and the boys would not leave. That was about midnight. I stood there holding her hand, leaning over once in a while to hold her hand against my face. At about 3:30 or 4:00 as I was leaned over, resting my back(still holding her hand)my legs began to buckle as I was fighting sleep as well. I decided to pull a chair to the side of the bed and sit there with her hand against my face. She decided to hang around for a while. Another 2 days. The nurses were surprised that she was holding on so long. Especially with the damage to the heart and the 140 pulse rate. But that was Brandy being Brandy. She wasn't leaving until she was good and ready.
In closing I would like to say that If you knew Brandy you had to love her. If she knew you, she most likely loved you as well. Our Pastor, Gene Ware did Brandy a wonderful eulogy. I hope you all got a glimpse of the love she gave freely and asked for nothing in return. I will miss her. I will mourn for her. I will ache for her. Most of all I will love her always.
Mike
P.S. I must apologize for not having the pamphlets to hand out and the register book to sign. I don't know where the miscommunication happened. I'm sure it was probably all on me.
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